Heart's Adventure

Whether it’s social pressure, boredom, or just plain loneliness, we can find ourselves in romantic situations that just don’t feel right. Have you ever gone on a date just to have something to do? Have you ever stayed together with someone just so you weren’t alone during the holidays or for a special occasion? When it comes to prospective romance, how often do we really listen to our heart and let it be our guide? When we go out with someone for the wrong reasons we may rationalize our actions with the old phrase, “You need to kiss a lot of frogs to find a prince.” Deep down, however, we realize that there are other more healthy ways to fill our emptiness or find that someone special. Sure we need to risk for love, but first we need to love ourselves. This may be easier said than done, but when we stop chasing after our dreams and really begin to experience the present we can feel whole again. Stopping to experience the here and now may at times bring fear and anxiety; but it can also bring clarity and acceptance, putting us in a better place to attract the person who is right for us.

Have you ever been in a place where everything felt just right? – You love your job or you think you’ve found the person you want to spend the rest of your life with….and then…BAM – You’re unceremoniously laid off or the person you love says they want out of the relationship and they don’t love you anymore. The world as you know it is turned upside down. Your friends say that everything happens for a reason, and you try to believe it, but while you’re fighting through the pain and sadness, it seems to be a loosing battle.

Through this difficult segment of your journey, there are still fleeting moments of clarity; moments when you have a better understanding of yourself, your strength, and the knowledge that no matter what happens you will survive. These may be few and far between at first, but there’s energy in those moments and following that energy can lead you out of the darkness.

So while fighting through the pain, take time to let go and be open to that energy that can take you to a better place, a place of strength and clarity, and ready again to face life’s new adventures.